How many couples around you live together before marriage? Why cannot these lovers wait until matrimony? Nowadays, many people who love each other have a premarital life. They share the same house. They share the same life. However, this was not like that in early times. It was vice for people to have an affair before marriage. They could not manage a premarital life. But now it is possible for us to happen to see these scenes not only in abroad but also in Turkey. According to Scott Stanley & Galena Kline (2009) ‘60 percent or more of couples now live together before they get married and many others live together instead of getting married.’ Nevertheless, in Turkey it is bad for premarital partners to prefer staying in the same home in some ways.
Some people assert this notion that couples can be acquainted with each other in a better way by sharing the same place before marriage. It is partially true. If premarital partners have a life like married ones, they may know each other in due course; but they may drastically become fed up with their monotonous life. The lovers, firstly, decide to marry and then they want to have a birth. A baby is fruit of the marriage, and if we suppose that they have not a real marriage life, it seems that they have not an appropriate chance to have this splendid fruit of matrimony. Moreover they have not responsibilities of marriage life, so they can break apart easily without marriage. On the other hand, many women see cohabitation as a pace of matrimony, but exploitive men do not see living together as a step towards to the marriage. Therefore they agree to cohabitation just for not letting down women’s offer, without referring to the marriage. (Dush, et al, 540- it is the only thing that I saw for reference)
A number of people surmise that while they share the same flat, they can accumulate their money and they can live more luxuriously. By sharing rent, food, utilities, transportation, furnishings, couples are to be more comfortable. They will pay for rent twice less with that living style. On the other hand, that idea is partially appropriate because there will be a social reaction to this style of living together. Normally, if people decide to share their life, they marry. People have to obey what people generally do. Otherwise society does not like the odd one out.
Some individuals anticipate that providing the lovers do not share the same accommodations, they have usually difficulty to meet each other, and they will always spend much money outside because they will always have to be together outside. This notion can be partially accepted. Actually, there are many cheaper places for couples to spend nice time. Also, meeting outside is much better for lovers, so they are able to know how they are supposed to behave each other outside.
In conclusion, if partners love each other so much to live together, it is better for them to marry. There are many advantages when they marry, but in this text a few of them are written; in economic, social and emotional ways marriage is a good thing. Lisa Bower (2011) says that many studies show that premarital cohabitation is not necessarily a good idea because it does not exactly mean that the two loved ones will end up together or tend to divorce in a lower potential way. Marriage is a necessary occasion when people want to share the same accommodation by loving each other in an indispensable way. It is a law of nature as it seems.
References:
Kline,G., Stanley,S. (2009). Myths about living together retrieved from
Dush,et al,540. Pre-marital cohabitation or ‘’Living together’’, retrieved from
Bower,L. (2011). Cohabitation before marriage: A good idea?, retrieved from
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